Feeling not good enough?
Who would you be if the voice inside your head that’s been telling you there’s something wrong with you, went quiet?
What if you knew with absolute certainty that you were good enough and worthy of love and kindness?
It’s going to take more than positive thinking to change it because willpower is an exhaustible resource that you can’t sustain in the long run.
Permanent change needs to happen deeper than that.
When you struggle with low self-worth, it can feel like you’re constantly fighting an uphill battle. The pressure to prove your value can leave you drained, disconnected, and unsure of yourself.
Symptoms
There are a wide range of symptoms when you feel unworthy.
- You feel not good enough.
- You find it easy to spot your shortcomings but aren’t good at knowing what you excel at. The list of things you feel you do well is not that long.
- You are driven to prove you’re good enough by any means necessary, even if it means sacrificing your health, relationships and dreams.
- You feel a compulsion to ‘have’ to do things for others, becoming a doormat or martyr.
- You feel ashamed about how you look, feel, behave or think.
- You overreact, lash out or become defensive about anything that smells like criticism.
- You always compare yourself with others and usually put yourself last.
This is no way to live your life.
Causes
You were probably not born doubting or disliking yourself, which means that you must have learnt it somewhere.
Children’s brains work differently to adults, and their capacity and ability to process difficult emotions is limited. Since they’re hugely vulnerable they usually believe what they’re taught.
That means that when they are told or shown that they are deficient in any way, they believe it. They then take that belief with them into adulthood where it creates significantly painful consequences.
You don’t have to have suffered extreme abuse as a child to have been adversely affected; sometimes a well-meant comment can cause much harm.
It might also be that you have no idea where feeling not being good enough comes from. Even if this is true, you can still get help.
Resolution
Energy Psychology neutralises even severe trauma by calming down the stress centre in the brain, the amygdala. It almost halves the stress hormone, cortisol, which then calms down the nervous system.
Memory reconsolidation is the mechanism through which the brain changes outdated beliefs into healthy beliefs like you are good enough.
Matrix Reimprinting is a gentle technique that helps you rewire the brain to live more freely and joyfully.
Combining these techniques allows you to undo the damage caused by the things that happened in your past. You will then understand that you are good enough and worthy, and be happy in your own skin.
Tailoring these techniques to your needs is what makes all the difference.
A better way
As your self-esteem and self-worth increases, things change. You will start feeling more comfortable in your own skin and more confident. You stand up for and care about yourself more and are able to say ‘Yes’ to life and ‘No’ to bullshit. You start making those tough decisions that you’ve been putting off forever, and you start finding ways to nourish and nurture yourself and your dreams. Generally, you feel more relaxed and no longer needing to be on-guard 24/7. You also understand that you’ll be able to cope with anything that life brings.
That's what I do
I specialise in helping you experience the truth of your worthiness and enough-ness, and I use Energy Psychology to do it.
How it works
I offer private sessions and training. Whether for yourself or someone else, you might want to learn how to use these techniques.
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Private Sessions
If you want to overcome personal challenges, you can book a private session with me.
Training
If you want to learn the techniques that have transformed many lives, you can attend training courses with me.
About me
Life has thrown me numerous serious curve balls over the years, and like you, I’ve survived them all. In the process, my capacity for compassion has deepened, as has my ability to listen (also for what is not being said) and to facilitate change.
I grew up in Cape Town, South Africa and moved to London when I was 27, where I spent 17 years, traveling the world and teaching extensively.
I discovered Energy Psychology in 2003 and was blown away by it. My first session with Paul Lynch deeply transformed my perspective, motivating me to become a practitioner and trainer.
I was so inspired that I eventually swapped a wonderful corporate career for what I do now. As much as I enjoyed and appreciated the opportunities of working for an international software company, I am very grateful that I had the courage to make the shift.
I have since done over a thousand sessions for my clients and have facilitated workshops and retreats for hundreds of people around the world. I have also been an Energy Psychology trainer for many years, helping people understand and use these techniques in a way that works.
From my clients
Bennie Naudé is a leading expert in EFT tapping, and his work has deeply inspired me.
Experiencing his sessions was truly amazing—his gentle energy, deep intuition, and skill make him an exceptional practitioner.
As a mentor, he patiently answers my questions, offering wisdom and encouragement. Anyone seeking healing and self-empowerment will greatly benefit from working with him.
Highly recommended!
I’ve attended many of Bennie’s trainings, starting with his Level 1 EFT workshop in 2013. Since then, I’ve taken nearly every course he offers, from Matrix Reimprinting to Fall in Love with Presenting.
Bennie is a superb trainer—professional, knowledgeable, and incredibly gentle in guiding clients to the heart of their issues.
His unique approach makes every session powerful and transformative.
Bennie is a powerful facilitator and teacher—professional, respectful, and deeply inspiring.
His workshops are thoughtfully designed, blending fun, kindness, and profound insight with his unique magic.
I’ve taken both his Fall in Love with Presenting workshop and Advanced EFT course, and they were truly exceptional.
I wholeheartedly endorse him and his work. He’s a beautiful spirit and we need more of him and his heart.
Bennie’s private sessions are next-level, life-altering experiences. He creates a safe space for deep healing, helping release emotions and trauma with skill and care. Meeting him in 2017 was truly life-changing.
His kindness, compassion, and profound expertise made learning EFT and Matrix Reimprinting an incredible experience. I frequently recommend him and am forever grateful for the impact he’s had on my life.
If it's time to do something different
Get in touch using the form on the right and I’ll answer your questions. You can also book a free 30-minute session with me for us to get to know each other better and to see how I might help you.